The other night we had a particularly rough time with Nicholas. He was being sassy, disobedient and destructive. He was not at all happy with being disciplined nor with being sent to bed 45 minutes early. He yelled, screamed, and threw things once he got to his room. He came back to the top of the stairs and yelled down: "I HATE YOU!" He threw some more things. More discussion, more discipline, more tears.
I later went back up and calmly explained to him again why he was being punished. He disagreed. He told me he hated me again, then asked me to cover him up. I politely declined, telling him that I would not tuck anyone in who was being so hateful to me. He finally fell asleep on his own an hour later, exhausted, I assume, by his own turdiness.
The next morning I'd hoped he'd be over it. He got dressed for school on his own and went downstairs to watch TV. So far, so good. On my way out the door to work a few minutes later, I went over and asked for a hug. He scowled at me and, with his arms folded across his chest, said, "I STILL REMEMBER YESTERDAY." Then he leaned over and gave me a (half-hearted) hug.
GOD FORBID HE LET ME WIN.
5 comments:
I've been feeling my "threeyearsless-ness" lately, too - and it is not fun! Stomping and general grumpiness - ugh! Oh and apparently, every girl shortens life expectancy by five years because they start the attitude earlier. (Cue replay of screaming fit in the mommy-van last week - oy vey....)
That kid is a trip.
I think every parent faces that several times in their life. When one of my daughters told me that, I just told her that I loved her and that would never change, but I didn't LIKE her very much at that moment because of what they had done/acted. There is something about acknowledging their anger that tends to melt some of it away.
Wait till he's 14! Good luck.
Beckie
The title of this post---->WHAT???
Seth has had many difficult moments lately when he doesn't get his way and he will say, "You are not my MOMMY/DADDY anymore." I have NO idea where he got that from. Seriously! I am thoroughly and absolutely convinced that parenting will be the hardest thing I ever do--harder than any job I have ever had or will have.
Ryan Leigh, we know stomping and grumpiness around here, too!
Beckie, I know it's almost universal, and I'm also dreading the teen years! I don't know how we're gonna make it. ;)
Leigh, we've had those same moments. It's nice to know we're not alone!
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